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[–]WanderingElephant 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

You need to let her know that her emotional response, whilst painful and uncomfortable, is entirely appropriate given these events. These emotions will fade and change with time. Humans are very good at one thing: adapting to adversity. Things may change in her life, including girlfriends, but change facilitates reflection, learning and adaption. Thats what she should aim for in the future. Right now it's ok to be sad, confused, distraught, shocked or angry - these emotions are our humanity and serve to eventually force us to move forward, beyond thier cause.

[–]MyLongestJourney[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. I will try to console her as you advised me.

[–]Lizzythelezzo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would recommend just being a good listener, showing emotional support, and don't give any unsolicited advice. Keep reaching out via text and phone calls (if she likes voice chatting). If you're not sure how to give emotional support, look it up and learn! Ask her what she wants and needs at the moment from you. If she's not sure, maybe you can offer things such as helping a bit with her shopping/cleaning or someone to accompany her to doctors appointments. If she likes gifts, perhaps a care package could be nice.