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[–]rosegoldstar 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I don't really have anything helpful to say but I do relate a lot, despite knowing I was gay since I was 13... I still sometimes try to convince myself I can be "at least" bisexual. and I'm also from New England with super accepting parents, so, /waves. you're definitely not alone.

Accepting that you have these feelings even though there's no "reason" for it is probably where you have to start.. think of it like depression, you know? Anyone can be depressed, no matter what their life and upbringing has been like. plus just telling yourself (out loud! sounds cheesy I know) daily that you're gay and there's literally nothing wrong with that (there isn't! plenty of people are gay! even plenty of animals are gay!) can even help. Fake it till you make it type stuff.

also... Sex definitely isn't the only reason to date someone you're attracted to, and you should never have to just "put up with" sex. :( <3

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    [–]rosegoldstar 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    yes, definitely! I'm a few years younger & when I was growing up it was pretty rare for people to be outwardly super hateful... but little snide comments, especially from other girls, about how gross lesbians are (sometimes the same ones who fetishize the "gay guy best friend" trope...) always stung and added up. I'm still really cautious about showing affection even to my really close friends for fear of coming off creepy :/