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Everything is transphobic. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]rosegoldstar 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

it’s true.

“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian” by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

is this person even female?

Struggling a lot with internalized homophobia.... (long and disorganized rambling, sorry) by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

yes, definitely! I'm a few years younger & when I was growing up it was pretty rare for people to be outwardly super hateful... but little snide comments, especially from other girls, about how gross lesbians are (sometimes the same ones who fetishize the "gay guy best friend" trope...) always stung and added up. I'm still really cautious about showing affection even to my really close friends for fear of coming off creepy :/

Struggling a lot with internalized homophobia.... (long and disorganized rambling, sorry) by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't really have anything helpful to say but I do relate a lot, despite knowing I was gay since I was 13... I still sometimes try to convince myself I can be "at least" bisexual. and I'm also from New England with super accepting parents, so, /waves. you're definitely not alone.

Accepting that you have these feelings even though there's no "reason" for it is probably where you have to start.. think of it like depression, you know? Anyone can be depressed, no matter what their life and upbringing has been like. plus just telling yourself (out loud! sounds cheesy I know) daily that you're gay and there's literally nothing wrong with that (there isn't! plenty of people are gay! even plenty of animals are gay!) can even help. Fake it till you make it type stuff.

also... Sex definitely isn't the only reason to date someone you're attracted to, and you should never have to just "put up with" sex. :( <3

Has anyone here EVER thought this? by artetolife in LGBDropTheT

[–]rosegoldstar 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I thank god I have never once thought this

Xbox games by southpaw in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

oh yeah that makes sense. i'm patient and tend to wait until games are cheap before i play them lol. apparently they listened to the criticism!

Xbox games by southpaw in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 1 insightful - 4 fun1 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I don’t think it was a recent update? But I played it back in March or April. I know Kassandra definitely got to “spend the night” with her at least twice! just the usual flirty cutscene though nothing too exciting.

I romanced just about every woman I possibly could while playing that game.. I think the old lady whose husband couldn’t even begin to satisfy her was my favorite tbh, lmao.

Xbox games by southpaw in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

well... they sleep together multiple times throughout the quest if you only bring back one pelt at a time and choose all the flirty dialogue options. the end of that quest line definitely did suck, though.

Xbox games by southpaw in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I play on ps4, mainly because I dislike the xbox controller and I love the uncharted series & TLOU which are sony exclusives. I also enjoy the dishonored series, AC, skyrim, and horror games. then there's pokemon on the switch and 3ds, plus the old nintendo classic games that are always fun to revisit..

one I have yet to play but would like to is horizon zero dawn, it's been out on ps4 for a while and seems to have great reviews. just recently was ported to PC, too, but no xbox :/

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

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gender used to just be a synonym for sex. when a vet tech asks me what gender my dog is, it's obvious they are not asking how he identifies. for normal people that's still true, i think. writer is clearly drinking the genderist moron koolaid, though.

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

[–]rosegoldstar 22 insightful - 6 fun22 insightful - 5 fun23 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

gee, it's almost like pretending you can /actually/ change your sex is a bad idea!

Finally given up on ever looking through r/Actuallesbians again... Also this is a total fantasy. by RedditHatesLesbians in GenderCritical

[–]rosegoldstar 39 insightful - 6 fun39 insightful - 5 fun40 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

lol, "a". the vast majority of mods on AL are TiMs. rip r/actuallynotlesbians.

Finally given up on ever looking through r/Actuallesbians again... Also this is a total fantasy. by RedditHatesLesbians in GenderCritical

[–]rosegoldstar 39 insightful - 11 fun39 insightful - 10 fun40 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

gonna take a wild guess and say he was referring to other ~transbians~.

Meanwhile on r/actualtransbians a few lesbians apparently still hang out. "Can we stop objectifying women who are just doing their jobs?" by Lady_Montgomery in LGBDropTheT

[–]rosegoldstar 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

s/lesbians is exclusively for (female) lesbians. it replaced the banned r/truelesbians.

Meanwhile on r/actualtransbians a few lesbians apparently still hang out. "Can we stop objectifying women who are just doing their jobs?" by Lady_Montgomery in LGBDropTheT

[–]rosegoldstar 35 insightful - 2 fun35 insightful - 1 fun36 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I’m sure this doesn’t apply to every cis guy, but I’ve seen a few posts from people who said that they thought they were cis guys who just thought lesbians were cool, before eventually realizing that they weren’t a guy at all and were a lesbian too. I figure that by allowing and accepting everyone, even curious straight guys, it makes it more okay for a questioning person to dip their toes in the water.

when asked why "cishet" men were in a sub for lesbians, someone responded with this. what a joke.

What is a trans butch lesbian? by dandeliondynasty in LGBDropTheT

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A completely straight, gender-role conforming male that desperately wants to have sex with lesbians.

Apparently the google album of all the homophobic tweets has been circulating around the lgbt subs. I posted it myself in askgaybros a few times, especially when they say "no one says/believes x" by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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ah yes, those dastardly women so committed to TERFdom that they've gone deep undercover as trans, littering social media with their lame selfies and whiny text posts, all for the cause. sounds legit.

it's so true that the biggest downfall of the TRA movement will be their members' own behavior.

Any TV show/series recommendations with lesbian characters? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

POI is so good. Several excellent female characters in general. :) It's one of my top favorite shows (and I watch way too much tv).

Not surprised tbh, a "Literal" circlejerk for the Transbian by FineIWillDoItMyself in Lesbians

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Yeah, it's true. Very sad for the kids that fall for this and scary as hell that there are parents pushing it on their children, some starting as young as 3 years old!

with regard to the "neovaginas"... I was wondering why, if it's strictly a dysphoria issue, they wouldn't just remove the penis (and create a hole for the urethra)? The pseudo vaginal cavity that is created during SRS is nothing like an actual vagina. Wouldn't having an obvious 'fake' just create even more dysphoria?

Any TV show/series recommendations with lesbian characters? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Wentworth will tear out your heart and rip it to shreds just about every damn season. Still love it though.

Any TV show/series recommendations with lesbian characters? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

a couple of my favorites that I haven't seen mentioned:

Person of Interest on Netflix. A brilliant show on its own, mid/late season 2 and beyond features Sarah Shahi & Amy Acker /swoon

Black Sails on Hulu. Gay & bi pirates, what's not to love? Anne Bonny ♥

the Black Mirror episode San Junipero (Netflix) also deserves a mention.

Cute, quick watches that are more YA style: I Am Not Okay with This and Trinkets, both on Netflix.

Trans homicide epidemic is a false narrative. by koonay in GenderCritical

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here's the tweet from the OP, the thread is a good read.

Not surprised tbh, a "Literal" circlejerk for the Transbian by FineIWillDoItMyself in Lesbians

[–]rosegoldstar 28 insightful - 7 fun28 insightful - 6 fun29 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

Browsing that sub always gave me a headache, even before I peaked. I was particularly confused on how ""afab"" nonbinary people could be lesbians if transwomen were also 100% true and honest, oh-so-totally valid, lesbians. Wouldn't the inclusion of enbies reaffirm that lesbianism = sex based attraction, not gender? Hmmmm. Anyway. 11/16 mods there are male, which really says it all I think. They even have a handy guide on how not to be a transphobe, here's a tidbit:

Things which are not transphobic:

Not being interested in, or not dating, a specific woman who does not currently have the genitalia you prefer.

they actually think the surgical attempt at recreating female genitalia, or a neovagina, is equivalent to the real thing? shudder.

My ask for the Reddit users by Yayme in GenderCritical

[–]rosegoldstar 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

at least don't use the app and always use an ad blocker when you're on the site.

I was misgendered today. An older man said 'sorry sir' to me.lets see if you can guess my response.. 1. Screamed about the violence of this comment 2. Cried 3. Went about my day by Finally in GenderCritical

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I’d guess most of the ones that overreact to “misgendering” don’t actually have dysphoria. If they did, I can’t see why they’d want to draw much attention to it. The trenders just have to put on a show.

I was misgendered today. An older man said 'sorry sir' to me.lets see if you can guess my response.. 1. Screamed about the violence of this comment 2. Cried 3. Went about my day by Finally in GenderCritical

[–]rosegoldstar 2 insightful - 4 fun2 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

watch out. it might hit you final destination style.

Fellow lesbians, describe your religious backgrounds and beliefs by lmaonope333 in Lesbians

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Technically born Catholic, baptized and all that. It was really just a church on Christmas and Easter type of thing for my immediate family, and even that stopped when I was 11/12, though. As a kid I guess I was agnostic, now just atheist.