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[–]LesbianInExile 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think being a lesbian means you can't have deep friendship bonds with men - Straight women usually have strong friendship bonds with other women, it doesn't mean they are secretly bi. Friendship is different from sexual and romantic attraction.

I think being a lesbian has actually made it more difficult for me to connect with most other women - specifically straight and bi women - because of the lesbophobia I have experienced from them and internalised myself - that I wasn't a real woman, that lesbians are creepy predators, that they don't feel comfortable being close to us. And my sexuality also means that I don't share a lot of experiences that are seen as common female experiences.

These days I have a lot more female friends than male friends (mainly other lesbians but some straight/bi women too) but I still have some male friends and my longest standing friendship is with a gay man who I have known since we were both teens (a long time ago!). I do recognise the misogyny in some gay men and try to avoid those ones but I do think we have a lot of common experiences too and on an individual level there are also straight guys that are decent people who I have shared hobbies or interests with.

[–]lurkergirl 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Where is this idea of misogynistic gay men coming from? I've never felt it. Is it just a feeling that they're against women, or do you have a defined idea of how they're against women.