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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

I’ve always had the opposite problem. I lock in and hold my ground very easily. My wife and I have only be in one fight, it lasted 2 weeks because we are both very head strong. We came to the agreement to just talk it out any time we feel any type of way about things because if we don’t shit gets very awkward.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Omg i would not survive a two week fight. If anything makes me ready to hit the road it’s being withdrawn from and the silent treatment. Lol. Did you guys just not speak for that whole time? I can’t even imagine the level of fury I would have reached by the time 2 weeks had passed. I would be melting the scenery within 10 feet of me with my burning anger.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

It was what the fight that ended all fights. She wanted me to quit chasing shows and amateur rodeo and finally be home all year round, I however wanted to do whatever the hell I felt like. We went at each other for about an hour, I left the house, then she moved my stuff into a guest room and we didn’t talk for 2 weeks. My never being willing to compromise is what really lead to it. In the end she won, but it was for the best I basically have been surviving Gabapentin and muscle relaxers for the past 15 years from all the good and crazy times I’ve had. Her main point was I was destroying myself chasing a dream. My point was I don’t care, I do what I want.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I’m on her side. Lol.

You either:

A) want a partner

Or,

B) want to do what you want, when you want to do it, and how you want to do it

Those are two incompatible ways to exist. I dumped a woman for that exact thing. I would have been REALLY torn with you though because it would be really hard to tell the woman I love that she needs to stop having a dream to be home with me. I bet it took her a good while to even make that ultimatum.

But you sound like a stubborn ass and that’s why you love that ass of yours so much. Kindred spirits. What a handful. You’re wife is probably better at wrangling women than you, low key, so as to not hurt your cowgirl pride and all.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I probably helps that she’s about 9 years older then me. I spent a lot of time purposely dating women that were easily ran over, she’s not one of them. When we first met she wanted nothing to do with me, can’t blame her I was 30 and sleeping with 23 year olds and doing what I wanted because I knew that would let me. It’s been stated several times that I was a fixer upper project for her lol.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sis, if some woman called me a fixer-upper I would be “fixin” to walk right out the door, that’s what. But I have not needed fixing, I suppose, having lived a very un-Shane lifestyle. I think you knew you needed a fix.

You were SUCH a rake, cowgirl Shane. A whole trail of broken hearts looking back at you. You’re not doing anything to dispel that comparison here. Lololol. I’m surprised she took a chance on you!

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m definitely the reacher, and she’s the settler. At first she questioned me a lot on why I would be with her when there are still conquests to be had, and if I was sure I was done with that chapter in my life. Deserved questions. There were a lot of bumps in the beginning, I put them there. It took a lot of work to be the person she deserves to have, still trying to figure some parts out. I’m not saying I changed for her, but she definitely softened me.