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[–]Poppy29252 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I always see the excuse "It feels so dirty and sexual" and all I think is "So you perpetuate that connotation by not using it?"

Women are sexualized beyond belief, none of us are new to that, yet we still call ourselves women. I'm not going to let others define or undefine me just because they are garbage people.

[–]lxit09 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It took me a long time to get comfortable with calling myself a lesbian just because I'd always heard the word used to describe porn or something else pervy or dirty. It's super sad. Now I say it with pride, but it took a bit to overcome. Still, more lesbians aren't going to call themselves that until the rest of us 'normalise' it and help dissociate 'lesbian' from the gross associations it has had in mainstream culture.

[–]CatsOrGoHome 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Unfortunately, the same people who think lesbian is a dirty word are the same people who usually like to call themselves non binary, so the woman example probably wouldn't make them see reason.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Non-binary is a much more offensive label than lesbian could ever hope to be. They seem to like the no-name brand of gender labels well enough, surely. Lol

[–]Poppy29252 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mostly agree. I've seen the same excuse on this (TL) sub.