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[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

In my experience a lot of this has also been what I have found as well. I think we are always struggling to describe the dynamics even with the relative scope of dynamics possible within lesbian relationships.

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

You’re right. The only thing we can say for sure is lesbian relationships are not what outsiders assume, and especially butch/femme pairings.

In 2020 we have loads of people who are not lesbians, and sometimes not even women, in the community who are trying to make the butches and butch/femme stereotypes imagined by straight people into reality. It’s so gross. As if it’s not difficult enough to be a GNC woman, now this.

[–]yousaythosethings 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Ugh yea all of the comments on AL and YouTube and everywhere that say things like “top energy” in response to the image of a butch or androgynous woman. Why are they assigning sexual roles based on appearance and how tf is that progressive?

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know! It’s really harmful that so many gnc women automatically get classified as “top” or aggressive or whatever else simply because they are not feminine in traditional ways. You really don’t know what anyone likes just by looking at her