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[–]beholdyourheart 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Man, reading this makes me feel kind of sad actually. Like she's obviously not a lesbian but she probably is bisexual and in a really shitty relationship. A lot of this stuff she's saying I've even heard from straight women too, and it really seems like so many men just straight up don't give a shit about their wife/girlfriend's happiness in the slightest. I hope she's able to get out of that relationship and pursue a relationship with a woman if she wants to, but I just wish she wouldn't co-opt the term lesbian. It's totally okay to be bisexual who wants to only be with women, but if you have any attraction to men at all then you're not a lesbian and saying you are just reinforces the idea that homosexuality is a preference rather than an innate, fixed sexuality. I don't even think it comes from a place of malice for the most part, just ignorance, but I wish we could get across how harmful shit like this can be to us.

[–]TalerTest 29 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 0 fun30 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't even think it comes from a place of malice for the most part, just ignorance

I wish this was true, but nah. If you try to call these women out they will erupt. They love calling themselves lesbians, they love it. They are not going to stop and they don't care about how it demeans homosexuality.

[–]Astrid2448[S] 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In fact, they will ban actual lesbians for not validating them enough.