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[–]ohbarnacles 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think I'm femme. I don't often wear dresses or skirts, but instead opt for an urban/feminine look. I usually wear a cropped band/movie t-shirt with some oversized jeans, paired with some sneakers or docs. My hair is very long and my face is feminine so I really like the contrast. I put a lot of effort into my appearance: Threaded eyebrows/facial hair, well-groomed fingernails, makeup, etc. I think most of my self-maintenance stems from being teased by my friends in elementary school for being a hairy latina...oops.

When people usually find out I'm a lesbian, they proceed to tell me a story about how their friend/cousin/sister is a lesbian too (!!!) and sometimes talk about how STRANGE it is to see a conventionally attractive woman be attracted another woman, and how it's even weirder to see them with a butch woman. The only struggle from being femme or more "undetectable" that I can think of is not being approached by other gay women.