That sounds like some awesome stuff you're working on! Good luck with the driving theory test.

but it seems to take awhile to be like 'Ok, now I focus on myself only, I do me'. Still haven't taken this step but it will eventually happen for sure.

I getcha. I like to think of it as a skill that I practice, rather than a feeling. I saw a quote recently along the lines of "Motivation is a drug, consistency is a choice" and I really relate to that.

Yeah, no I definitely am easily affected by negativity. For me, growing up, I had to be very quick at reading the room and I grew up in a very negative, hurtful family-- coupling that with having a lot of compassion and "what if this was me?" thoughts for people, and there you have it, lol.

I don't believe you're exaggerating-- or that it's a bad thing that you are very sensitive. I think that a) all your feelings are real and worth paying attention to and considering, and at the same time, b) that your feelings might not reflect reality. Acknowledging both of those at once helps me a lot, I think.

For example, say I see a post from a self-described lesbian about how lesbians must be okay with dick or they are transphobic. I would probably feel distress, and maybe start worrying about how awful I would feel if I felt compelled to say such a thing, as a lesbian. The person who said it must be hurting. But, in reality, I would have no idea if they were a real lesbian, a misguided straight woman claiming to be lesbian, or a transgender-identified man claiming to be a lesbian. The odds are, it's not worth it for me to engage with them, but that doesn't mean my own feelings about it are exaggerated or worth any less. Does that sorta make sense?

Sorry for the wall of text, lol. Hope that is helpful and not more confusing!

edit: I just want to add, I think being sensitive is a gift. I wish more people were more sensitive, they might be more thoughtful in their words and actions if they are. You don't have to change how you are, but you are worth the same sensitivity towards how something might affect you, as much as how it affects other people. :)