I feel like I'm going to need to live near a population dense area to have a good chance of having a serious relationship unless I win the lesbian lottery and meet my soul-mate by chance, because I have a hard enough time clicking with people platonically, and then multiply that by the proportion of the population who is lesbian, I'm going to have to very actively look for connections, which is completely against my nature (I could spend the rest of my life as a recluse only interacting with one or two people and eschewing all other social contact, working online, and be completely satisfied, but I want one of them to be a woman whom I love and am completely devoted to and she's not just going to ring my doorbell like some lesbian missionary) and not at all easy. My only sexual and romantic experiences are from late high school and college, where I didn't have to put in much effort to find lesbian and bi girls because fortunately they were very liberal schools and this was right before the gender madness took hold. But I've been working on it, and I was even starting to go out to gay bars and chat with women just before the pandemic, which has really fucked up my social progress.

Living in NYC would really bum me out now though because I live to run and hike outdoors and see shows and was really starting to enjoy going out to bars and meeting women, even though I hadn't really hit it off with anyone yet. I'm also wary because I've heard these big cities are where gender dogma runs rampant, but I don't think my employer (or most prospective employers in my industry) would give a shit if someone called in and complained saying I was trans-exclusive, as long as I wasn't creating an HR problem at work or making a huge fuss about it publicly in a way that the company could easily be smeared by association. And by sheer numbers, there are bound to be many lesbians there who are over this bullshit like you, and I couldn't give two shits if the gender brigade and its followers hate my guts as long as it doesn't affect me materially. I spent most of my early school years being hated by many of my peers for being a loner, unfeminine, and ideological outsider as an atheist liberal in a very religious conservative environment, and it didn't help that I wasn't into most of the "in" things. So I've gotten used to not caring what small-minded people think of me, even if they are the majority and do their best to make my life difficult.