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[–]oofreesouloo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

We all felt pressure to like a guy. To fit in. To not been seen as disgusting and predatory. To not be seen as the “lesbian” only, instead of ourselves. I had male friends that I was such good friends with I would just wish to feel something for them, you know? But you can’t force it.

Jeez, I could have written this exact same words myself. With my best friend of all time, who was a straight guy. He was the best friend I've ever had, the only one at the time who not only fully respected my sexual orientation, but helped me embrace it and accept myself when everyone else was making it sound there was something wrong with me. I cannot begin to explain this deep love that I had for this guy. No, he wasn't just talking to me for sex. He genuinely cared, I could talk to him literally about EVERYTHING (since the most stupid things to the most personal things and when I mean personal, I mean really personal). This guy literally cleared my tears a couple of times. He would also open up a lot to me and we had this really strong bond no one would interfere. We would talk on a daily basis, but as time gone by and due to lack of schedule compatibility we started to drift apart slowly, but I still care deeply about him 'till these days and if he ever needed me for something, I would be there. And at the time, I used to be SO angry at myself wondering WHY couldn't I feel anything for this guy? Anything being in a sexual way, in a romantic way, in a relationship way. It was purely platonic... I already knew I was a lesbian, but I didn't want to be. It used to make me so angry, and this guy knew I hated myself and he made me genuinely love myself and not be ashamed of it. I just wanted him to be happy, but not in a 'I want to be in a relationship with you way', but in a 'I want to be part of your life and meet your gf (which I did LOL) kind of way.' We were best friends for 5 years until we finally drifted apart eventually.

By the way, I'm so sorry for the length of this lmaaaaaaao

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Yeah, I had a group of friends like that and they were such nice people to be around. They didn’t care if anyone was gay. We all moved to different cities, but it’s sad now to think that those mostly male straight kids I hung out with in high school and their girlfriends were the most accepting people I would ever know. Our own community isn’t even close

[–]oofreesouloo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I had a group of friends like that and they were such nice people to be around. They didn’t care if anyone was gay. those mostly male straight kids I hung out with in high school and their girlfriends were the most accepting people I would ever know.

This, definitely. He was a really open minded guy and his previous best friend was another lesbian and he knew plenty of lgb(t) people. He just didn't care, just wanted everyone to be happy.

Our own community isn’t even close

Yes, our community is being run by lunatics who see homophobia as 'progressive'. Jesus Christ.