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[–]VioletRemi 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Why I Think It's Bunk

Why I know it's bunk.

I was married for 3 years on man. And dated one man after that. Ex-husband was really great man, like really great person, handsome, strong, carying, very kind, and so on.

And yet...I was feeling nothing. In bed I really tried a lot of times, but in the end I decided I am just frigid or something. It was just same for me as sleeping with pillow, no feeling, nothing.

And I was thinking I am frigid or asexual, until I slept in one bed with woman. My blood was pumping, her scent was driving me crazy. I realized, that I am not frigid, my body just not accepting men. And that is it. And I can do nothing about it. It is how my physiology works, it has nothing to do with my choice, with my thoughts or with my anything. It is just how my body works. I can't "spectrum" my body to like men or transwomen, just can't. Sexuality is as fluid as granite.

[–]writerlylesbian[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, this seems to be the crux that so many of these researchers and supporters of the 'spectrum' simply can't wrap their heads around. I think a lot of it is to do with not respecting or recognising female sexuality at all in the first place. Men basically seem to think we just exist to be used as their masturbation toys/porn props.