When did you realise you were a lesbian?

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[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

I never talked about women with men, and still don’t, because they think it’s an invitation to be gross and show me nude pics of tinder women etc. Be treated like “one of the guys” can be a disturbing glimpse into the straight guy world. Lol. They know not to do this with me, or I don’t chill with guys who act like that.

I find a lot of straight women to be very man-focused and I get bored around them. My eyes glaze over listening to it. If it’s general relationship stuff it’s fine, but lots of them complain about their boyfriends but never actually tell their boyfriends they are doing anything wrong. The guys I know talk about more subjects that are not about their partners so that’s easier to get excited about, for me. I think the way straight people are raised is just so odd. So many women seem to focus their entire beings on male approval so they almost don’t have as many interests sometimes. I can have a whole conversation about themes in film or video games or comic books with dudes and they don’t start talking about looks or their gfs. Lol.

I was in some gifted classes but quit because I didn’t want the other kids to think I was different

[–]oofreesouloo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

I never talked about women with men, and still don’t

Oh okay, my bad. In that case, I guess we're 'in the same page'.

I find a lot of straight women to be very man-focused and I get bored around them.

they don’t start talking about looks or their gfs.

You can say that about straight women, just as I can say a lot of straight men are very sports focused and only think about sex (at least in my country, this is the case for LOTS of straight men). For me, watching sports and/or hearing about sports is the most BORING thing on earth. Dude, I HONESTLY don't give a crap how many scores Jonathan Drew made, or how many home runs Michael Smith made. Despite me loving PLAYING sports, I HATE watching sports and/or talking about it (which is something MANY straight guys seem to fixate on and that I PERSONALLY think it's very dull)

So, this is to say - it depends on how you look at things AND what things you enjoy. I know plenty of interesting straight women. I know plenty of interesting straight men. But I also know plenty of boring boring/stupid/gross/dull people from both sides.

In my opinion, you're being unfair to straight women :P There are several straight women that I find very interesting and that have plenty of different interests and don't spend the time thinking about guys. It's true though that many tend to talk about guys once in a while, BUT I'm like that as well but with women. So I'm biased. I talk to them about my woman crushes. We're different.

Talking about looks might be boring and stupid FOR YOU, but for me it isn't. For me, going shopping buying some clothes is fun as hell. For you, it can be the most boring thing on Earth and a waste of time. I'm biased again, but you seem biased too :P

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I don’t hang around with ANYONE who likes sports. And the straight women I see are mostly coworkers and they are usually really focused on shallow stuff or dudes. That’s just my experience. I don’t have typical interests for a woman though so it makes a lot more sense for me to find certain types of women unrelatable even if I like them generally

[–]oofreesouloo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Yep, but that's the point I tried to convey. It's your experience and your interests as well.

it makes a lot more sense for me to find certain types of women unrelatable even if I like them generally

Exactly. That's exactly how I feel but towards men and not women. As I hardly ever am able to make guy friends, the ones who 'stand out' are the sport obsessed and sex obsessed (as there are many of them). And with you, I believe it's the same the other way around - it's the look obsessed and shallow straight women who 'stand out'.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I’ve just generally found very few straight women with the same types of interests, since the majority I have been around in my entire life, I mean the whole of my entire life, are quite focused on their bodies and their appearance and boyfriends. I have not ONLY met women like that, and those women didn’t “stand out” there we just a very high amount of them compared to the others, and I imagine the same of men being into sports etc, I just don’t befriend those guys either. I wish there were more women with similar interests to me, but it just is not the case. That is not a stereotype it’s an observation about the majority of straight women I have personally interacted with in the world.

[–]oofreesouloo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

I know, I got what you were trying to say and that was my point. I also don't befriend the look obsessed, shallow obsessed straight women either. At this point, we're agreeing with each other, but there seems to be some sort of misunderstanding here lmao.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Yeah, I was getting confused, maybe it’s me, my focus is off right now. No one with any depth to them can sustain themselves with shallow connections

[–]oofreesouloo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

It can be me as well, I don't know. English is not my first language so I might not be expressing my ideas the best way. But yes, definitely! Nothing shallow is worth it.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Your English is perfect

[–]oofreesouloo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Don't compliment me 😂 thanks but I feel uncomfortable, I appreciate that but I feel uncomfortable at the same time ugh. I don't know how to handle compliments. Sorry jesus.