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[–]Ricky_Ticky 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I think the reason is that there are just not enough lesbians to keep these places going. Bars, clubs, saunas and hotels for gay men exist because they can survive as a business. Bars, restaurants, hotels for lesbians? It even sounds unrealistic.

I don't think TQ community is to blame. They certainly made lesbians' lives harder but the lack of spaces for lesbians has been a problem long before TQ rhetoric became mainstream.

I don't know why the number of gay females is so disproportionate to the number of gay males. But I would really like to know that

[–]paleolithicat 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

See my comment in this thread. I am pretty sure the numbers are similar if you count in 1. huge numbers of comphets who repress their sexuality unknowingly/stay closeted for years, if not for their whole life; 2. many "bisexual" women who actually crave only girls but comphet world makes them have/seek relations with men.

I agree the idea about lesbian-only places like hotels, restaurants etc sounds unrealistic. But it has more to do with being female than with being lesbian in my opinion. How many women-only spaces do you know? Spare me the ones who are connected to men indirectly and have existed since ages in patriarchal societal forms too - like pregnancy, mother, housewife circles etc.

I agree though that it isn't the TQ community solely to blame in the case. They are just an additional factor nowadays.

[–]Ricky_Ticky 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

How many women-only spaces do you know?

You are right! I can't name any besides those where women discuss babies and boyfriends. It has never crossed my mind how terrible the situation actually is. But well... If so many women follow the comphets path, what can they expect...

[–]Dykexmachina 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It may be true that there are less actual, genuine lesbians than most other sexualities, but the BTQ is absolutely responsible for the disappearance of lesbian spaces. There is a long, documented history of this happening.