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[–]Dravidian 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

So I'm poly. And you know what? I'm so disheartened to see yet another triad with one mediocre dude and two really cool looking women when you can just blatantly see that they're in such an incredibly hetero and man-centric relationship with that dude and their bisexuality is erased or imaginary. I nearly never see poly relationships without men insterting themselves in it. So much that I get the bad rep polyamory gets in general, even though it saddens me because I strongly believe you can be with multiple people without being an asshole, sex addled (I'm asexual), or a serial cheater who has found a loophole.

But it's like a straight dude wet dream most of the time and I do agree that it's gross fetishisation.

[–]Astrid2448[S] 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Right this is what I’m talking about. These setups are very common not just in the poly community but in general. Society heavily encourages it, especially men and the media. If you’re going to do it whatever, but don’t act like you’re making some big move by doing exactly what men and straight society have been praying you’d do for ages: providing him with more women to enjoy. Making homemade lesbian porn for his fetishizing pleasure. Providing a fantasy of owning many women and having each of them have no men but him. There is a reason why nearly every young girl seems to desperately want to be seen as bisexual.