DiscussionOpinions of the usage of gay slang?

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[–]RedJackalRampant homosexual 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I'm seeing it myself. A woman described herself to me as a "top" when she has sex with her husband. I tried to explain that a straight woman can't be a top, but she wasn't having any of that.

Other terms I find used often are "spilling the tea" and "breeder," and of course "queer" means just about anything nowadays. I find all this appropriation offensive, at least when the original meaning is distorted to fit in straight people.

[–]BiHorror[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I tried to explain that a straight woman can't be a top, but she wasn't having any of that.

Oh man, I had to deal with those types too. It's so interesting how they get offended when you tell them the origins behind the words, and how it doesn't include them. I had one guy try to use stone butch lesbians as a justification on why hetero relationships can have tops/bottoms...

I've seen the other terms being used too. Although, I can see some "reasoning" on why it can be used (tiny attempt of trying to see their logic). Like "spilling the tea" since it doesn't really specify people like tops/bottoms, or butch and femme. But, when they misuse it, and completely disort the meaning, it's an issue.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Unless the woman is pegging her husband I don't see why she wants to use the word top. Dom and sub are understandable though.

[–]Eileen_Dover 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I thought that "spill the tea" was just a widespread slang term that's been used for years. I didn't know it associated with gay people.