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[–]Virginia_Plain 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Sad about the depression and so forth, but I'm really curious what these "ace trans gay guys" expect. So a gay guy has to be "emotionally mature enough" to have a sexless relationship with a chronically depressed woman who calls herself a man? What would this "actual relationship" look like? Celibate gay bestie?

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 6 insightful - 7 fun6 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

rural gay men love relationships without sex. And to help him out with not wanting sex, she has her vagina.

[–]Athelhilda4Questioning 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I’m wondering if the depression might be the root cause of her asexuality.

[–]Virginia_Plain 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I was depressed I didn't want sex, because I thought other people would find me disgusting to look at. You are likely on to something. The number of "asexual" people who look at pornography is also high too. I talked to someone who had a term for it, another one of those "ace spectrum" microsexualities.

The sexuality is there, it is just transposed onto electric statues: mute, pornographic images that are only a shells of the living, breathing people they came from.

[–]NutterButterFlutterStill waving into the void 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think she has any idea. She's 19 and deep into the woo-woo: https://old.reddit.com/user/Xx_ShadowHeart_xX