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[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 9 insightful - 6 fun9 insightful - 5 fun10 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

My partner of 3 years is unable to understand what it means to be affirming.

Oh good; His sense is still intact.

In which case, him doing and saying those things wouldn’t feel as genuine because they wouldn’t be his idea to do them, they would be mine. It would basically feel like me just telling myself those things, you know.

If your trans man-ness was actual you would't require anyone to constantly affirm anything about it, including yourself. Your perma-dick and balls would be right there, reminding you every-time you whizzed.

I’ve told him many times (especially in the bedroom) that he has to learn how to talk about certain things. For example, when I’m topping him, I’m not “using a dildo on him”. I’m fing him with my dick. It’s my dick. It’s a part of me. It isn’t a toy. I don’t like using language that clearly sets me apart from a cis man. Huge turn off.

Woah, calm your strap-on, lady- oops..

He understands this, but he just slips up sometimes, I guess? I don’t know. I don’t get it. Is it a cis man thing?

It's a subconscious awareness of reality thing. Pesky that.