I grew up in a rural, conservative area that had a lot of "liberals" who really didn't understand gay issues but blindly supported gay political causes because it was part of a self image and a lifestyle they were taking part in.

They'd sniff you out, push you to identify yourself, if you refused they'd bully and harass you.

Gotcha, that makes a lot of sense, thank you for explaining.

I had a teacher like this at my high school who was an asshole to me and a (future) gay guy in our class. She looked down on us, I guess because we weren't coming out to her satisfaction. I was being bullied and called a lesbian by a different boy in front of a group and this teacher stepped in and told him I wasn't ready for that, with this shit-eating grin on her face. The tone was very much "she's a lesbian but she can't deal with it, isn't that pathetic?" Fucking humiliating, plus it was essentially an endorsement from a gay authority to keep bullying me.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. That is beyond fucked up; it makes me so angry to hear about situations like that. I hope that teacher didn't harm many other of the kids besides you and that gay guy.

Kind of different situation but similar, I knew a guy when I was in college who said he was straight but some "LGBTQ"-identifying people that we both knew were constantly pressuring him to "just accept that he's gay"... he was very into women, and a lot of people seemed to think he must be gay because he participated in a lot of stereotypically feminine hobbies. :/ Like you're not helping. And if he IS gay or bi, you are probably pushing him further into the closet. Ugh.