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[–]hufflepuff-poet 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

But then let's say there's a gay hiking group. What's the commonality there? Hiking, not sexuality. So for what purpose does the gay hiking group exist? Not every single gay person has the same experiences. Sure, we all have something in common, but 99% of my experiences in life are not related to my sexuality in any sense, so it's not like I'm specifically benefitting from this "gay" hiking group over any other hiking group.

I like gay hiking and other meetup style groups cus I think it's a good place to meet other lesbians for dating/relationships, especially cus it shows we already have something in common and bars/clubs aren't really my thing.

[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly - I sort of went off on a wild, meandering road with my comment and just said, "Okay screw it" and submitted, but basically I meant that it sort of feels like the only real "purpose" for gay-specific groups (such as a gay hiking group) would be if you're looking for dating/relationships. Like, I don't have any gay male friends, and there's a part of me that wants gay male friends, but then if I really think about it, I'm like, why? Why specifically gay male friends? Just because someone is a gay man doesn't mean they'll have anything else in common with me. If I'm not looking for dating, then it would make more sense to just join a hiking group than any sort of gay group, you know?