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[–]onenaivecanary 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

For me, the main purpose of trying to find a gay community was to know that I was, in fact, not a wierdo. That other women felt the way I did. I would like to see a resurgence of sane gay spaces for that purpose. I'm not sure how they will happen because right now I avoid anything that advertises itself as LGBT (because it's always heavy on the TQ+), but it would be nice.

[–]Mermer[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have the privilege to be in friend groups where being gay is completely normalized so that aspect of me doesn't make me feel odded out but my point wasn't that and LGB person can't be a weirdo or a nerd but that the gay part isn't what makes them weird. I hope you found/find your people.

[–]onenaivecanary 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most people I'm around don't make me specifically feel weird about being gay, and I'm lucky to be married, but I feel like there are a lot of INSANE LGBT+ (mostly really QT+) types in my small left-leaning city and they consistently communicate that if you aren't an anarchist freak, you're not gay. They make me worry for my future. I feel like I am more likely to be attacked by this group than your traditional homophobic bigot, and It would really give me comfort to find some normal LGB people because with straight allies I feel like 50% of the time in liberal places they are also supporting the radical QT+ over the LGB.