you are viewing a single comment's thread.

view the rest of the comments →

[–]spicebutton 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

It's funny how gays and lesbians have all this gender "misalignment" stuff naturally infused into our identities and it organically works itself out. I think we forget that we were considered gender abominations by heterosexuals and they mostly had a problem with our "gender" more than our sex. Who pays for dinner when it's 2 women? Do they just sneer at each other until one gives in? Who cooks when it's 2 males? The one who loses in a fight of domination because cooking is for the "loser" and the "weak"?

Heterosexuals have this gender ideology stuff even fused into their god damn cooking (even though they'll deny it now) and then they come into our communities and still internalize and push it even when they try to install breasts onto their chest. So in his mind, he's still working within his heterosexual "binary" way of thinking.

He's a femme leaning/demi girl enby. This whole labrynth he's navigating around is created by a heterosexual identity and he seems to be unable to overcome it. He's obviously a bisexual but with 3000 tonnes of internalized homophobia that's eating him alive and he doesnt know how to fix it.

But it's clear he's basically using "heterosexual software" on a bisexual brain and this is the end result of what internalized homophobia does to a bisexual. He probably has no contact with gays or lesbians or anything to do with homosexuality ("the very idea of having a relationship with men disgusts me) and he's decided to ignore it and it's slowly eating him alive while he focuses on his attraction on women and turning himself into a clown.

[–]reluctant_commenter 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

But it's clear he's basically using "heterosexual software" on a bisexual brain

What does that even mean...?

He probably has no contact with gays or lesbians or anything to do with homosexuality

Well, he's on r/actuallesbians so yeah, there are almost no homosexual people on there. Lol. Christ, what an upside-down world we live in.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Using heterosexual laws of existence when they don't apply to you, I'm guessing.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Just referring to gender. The default role makes him think that he's a failed male so he thinks he's a woman. The description makes it sound like he isn't even attracted to women but he's somehow so disgusted with his own attraction to men that he thinks he's a lesbian...