LifestyleFrustrations as a GNC Gay man (Trans/Nb Nonsense)

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[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I just will say one thing: there's a fair share of gay man who like GNC men, but be aware of the sex pests, because they love to pray on effeminate, delicate gay men.

Stand on your ground and don't let yourself to be used by them.

Build you self-esteem up.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I appreciate the niceness but I don't really agree with the gay men liking GNC men thing. At least in my experience, I hardly if ever attract Gay men. The one time I can remember, it was a guy who was significantly older than me (he was in his 70s, I was 22-23) and I'm sure that was mostly because he was trying to prey on young guys. Aside from that, what few guys I have attracted over the year,s most of them were closeted bisexuals who called themselves "Straight".

So I'm not so sure if there are that many Gay men who are attracted to Gender nonconforming feminine men. But i do appreciate the sentiment~

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

At least in my experience, I hardly if ever attract Gay men. The one time I can remember, it was a guy who was significantly older than me (he was in his 70s, I was 22-23) and I'm sure that was mostly because he was trying to prey on young guys.

Yes, preference for guys with softer is more of an age thing in my experience, but they aren't THAT old, as the ones I've know are in their 30s and 40s. The problem is, as you pointed out, avoiding the creeps, which can be done by noticing some red flags these types tend to show.

Also, even with the pandemic still going on, I would advise you to try and to find a date in person, because online apps nudge people towards being shallow in regards to appearance, so it might help you in finding a partner.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Oh I got guys in their early 40s to their 60s too, they just would be asking for dick pics or even some trying to pay me to have sex with them. I did meet up with some older guys when I was younger but it never went anywhere. The generational divide was definitely apparent and even then, most of them were just looking for a "FB" situation. Thankfully these experiences definitely taught me how to notice red flags but that's the thing, it's always red flags (always propositioning for sex).

And yeah I've been told it's better to try to meet guys in person but I don't live anyway near gay clubs and it's not like I can meet guys out in every day public places. Well I mean you could but it's very unlikely.

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Let me guess: most of these were closeted as well? I would not be surprised if they were.

My last advice to you would be: don't worry, good things come with time, just keep trying and eventually you'll hit the jackpot.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep all of them were closeted. And thanks! I do get down every now and then but I'm determined to not give up completely just yet.