LifestyleHow was your experience as a gay or bi person in high school?

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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I was dating a girl for most of the time when I was a teen. It was nice being in love I'm always been anxious, it's kinda of my personality/disorder ahah Homosexuality adds to it, I think about the small dating poll and the much lower possibility of finding happy relationship and it depressed me. Also, how women are just more complicated/demanding then men. Eh, gay friends would be nice, but I don't think they're necessary. In the future, I will try lesbian meetup and trying to learn more of that world. I think I would like a butch lesbian friend or feminine gay male friend very much. With a feminine cute one I get along with there would be a risk of getting in love, I would avoid it if possible. Also, don't you see how sexuality can influence friendship too? Like you can have problem having female friends, risking to get in love with them? Homosexuality can be isolating in that aspect too. Yeah, homosexuality doesn't help anxiety.I think you should have friends based on personality/ intesest not orientation. Homosexuality is though isolating experience. I really don't think the worst part of being homo is homophobia today, but really being so abnormal. Like I'm abnormal in different ways, but sexuality is just one of them. But I kinda envy people who fit in perfectly and live as majority, sometimes.Women are great to date though, sexually and emotionally, which kinda make up the struggle a bit, I guess. I'm also a reserve process in terms of accepting my sexuality. Like in the past I didnt thing anything bad of being homosexual. While now, getting older, I'm starting to see the negative/depressing aspect and kinda being more sad about it/wishing I was bi.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

You’re right about the small dating pool. It’s incredibly small where I live, as most of the gay men my age move to Dublin, which is too expensive to live in. I will admit, I have high standards, but it would be nice if there were more gay and bisexual men in my town and we had a place just for us to interact with each other. Ironically, my sister has a lot of gay male friends, but they’re not the kinds of guys I’d be into. But some homosexuals find love later in life, so it can happen eventually. A few years ago the deputy principal at my secondary school came out as gay and married his husband. Before he came out, he was just a single man, who devoted his time to running the school and running study centres in the evenings and weekends where we did our homework or studied for exams. After he came out, he started to get more free time for himself, but he was still devoted to his school and he even postponed retirement when the pandemic hit.

And yes, it’s better to have friends based on interests and personality. All of my friends are straight, but they’re cool. Straight men aren’t interested in me so I don’t have to impress them, and they understand what it’s like to be male, and straight women understand what it’s like to find men attractive and you don’t crush on them. Now, there is the risk of developing feelings for a straight friend, but it helps that most of my straight male friends don’t look like the kind of guys I want to date. Don’t get me wrong, my friends are good looking, but I like men who are bald or have very short hair, and my male friends have curly hair, medium length hair, or black hair, which I’m not into. Another trick I use is to think of these men as my brothers, which helps a lot.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah, if you're gay you kinda have to live a big city, you can't live anywhere. It's very limiting. I was born in a small sicilian town where gays were like nonexistant. Although I knew two people, male and female, who I suspect are homos, but they would never admit it.You can find love at any age. So I got not problem if I have to wait until 40, I got too many things to fix and handle right now, to even think about it, but it's just so limitating. My standard are like: I'm attracted to her in a mental and sexual way, we're compatible and get along well. I know you gays tend to be much more looks focused, for us women the personality tend to be more significant in attraction.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I hate big cities. I prefer small towns. But if I had to live in a city for a few years, I’d do it, find love and then move back to the small town.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

"Escape to the Country...with your City Boyfriend"

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

He’d be sold on the extra amount of space and the friendlier, more reliable neighbours that come with living in a small town.