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[–]JulienMayfair 25 insightful - 4 fun25 insightful - 3 fun26 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

When I see couples presenting themselves to the world as being Unbelievably Happy, I have to confess that part of me thinks, "Let's just wait five years and check back." Pretty much every couple I've ever know that's determined to tell the world how in-love they are and how WONDERFUL their relationship is ends up splitting up, often very nastily. Think Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes.

In fact, I got in trouble with one gay friend for not taking off work to attend his wedding. The truth is, I knew it was destined for failure because of how hard they were trying to appear perfect. Two years later, I was right.

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes.

Oh man, when he was jumping around super excited about her on the Oprah Show ... I was cringing and sending my thoughts and prayers to her. I knew she would be in for a world of hurt.

I agree with you to check back in 5 years. That level of "Unbelievably Happy" is very much fake and self-deception. I've known some very happily married couples who get along perfectly, and they don't ever do that. They are honest enough to admit "we love each other deeply and are devoted, but even we have our own issues".

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, every couple has issues. Human beings have flaws and make mistakes. Strong relationships have been through hard times, and they’re strong because they’ve been tested by these hard times.