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[–]JulienMayfair 25 insightful - 4 fun25 insightful - 3 fun26 insightful - 4 fun -  (7 children)

When I see couples presenting themselves to the world as being Unbelievably Happy, I have to confess that part of me thinks, "Let's just wait five years and check back." Pretty much every couple I've ever know that's determined to tell the world how in-love they are and how WONDERFUL their relationship is ends up splitting up, often very nastily. Think Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes.

In fact, I got in trouble with one gay friend for not taking off work to attend his wedding. The truth is, I knew it was destined for failure because of how hard they were trying to appear perfect. Two years later, I was right.

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes.

Oh man, when he was jumping around super excited about her on the Oprah Show ... I was cringing and sending my thoughts and prayers to her. I knew she would be in for a world of hurt.

I agree with you to check back in 5 years. That level of "Unbelievably Happy" is very much fake and self-deception. I've known some very happily married couples who get along perfectly, and they don't ever do that. They are honest enough to admit "we love each other deeply and are devoted, but even we have our own issues".

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, every couple has issues. Human beings have flaws and make mistakes. Strong relationships have been through hard times, and they’re strong because they’ve been tested by these hard times.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

It’s almost as if couples who genuinely love each other don’t need to convince other people that they love each other, because they know themselves. Sorry to hear about your gay friend, but hopefully he’s doing better now.

[–]JulienMayfair 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

To be honest, he isn't, so far as I know. He underwent a bizarre religious reversion back to his Catholic upbringing and, last time I heard, is celibate and obsessed with religion. I ran across his ex in a porn video.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

LMAO. That's quite the tragic. When you're sad about being single, remind yourself on how wrong relationships can make you suffer

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You ever hear about straight people coming out of miserable marriages or relationships, and then vowing never to date the opposite sex again and just be single? Your friend is going through the gay equivalent of that. Sorry he is going through that. Hopefully he finds a man who is kind to him. His ex is even in a more tragic situation, because if you’re in a porn video, it’s over, it can never be deleted. Hopefully the ex leaves the porn industry.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Especially the couple who got joined facebook accounts. You know they're fucked up lol