Also consider that there are multiple reasons that people fall under the trans umbrella.

There are certain obvious archetypes.

Gay men who are trapped in the hierarchical structure of gender and can't comprehend themselves being effeminate and or attracted to men as a man. Somehow they warp their understanding of reality to call themselves women and they find that makes more sense than a man failing at his gender.

Straight men who develop an autogynophilia fetish. they get off on the public display the more they push into everyone's boundaries.

Straight women who develop the autoandrophilia / fujoshi fetish. They have a weird understanding of gay men as like submissive anime characters.

The female converse that seems to be missing is the gay woman who would transition then demand to be seen as straight. Gay women don't seem to care about failing at their gender. They seem to be trying to escape it so they probably don't care about performing as a man they all seem to be the ones using non-binary like it's a real thing.

Men act out as women because they are homophobic about their own sexuality so they claim to be straight by any means. Women act out as men because they just want to be anything but women so they don't care so much about being viewed real men as long as they don't need to be a woman.