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[–]MyLongestJourney 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Can not relate OP. I have no problem when in heterosexual company to listen to heterosexual people talking about their opposite sex partners and their children. I have no problem to share their joys and their sorrows and even offer some advice.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Lmao I also have no problem in listening and giving advice. I have problem because I feel like I don't belong there lmao and have trouble engaging because they expect me to like guys.

[–]malloww 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The easiest way to deal with it I've found of to just subtly redirect people back to themselves when they try to turn the conversation to you and you can't contribute without saying things you aren't sure you want to yet. Like say they're trading stories about guys being dicks to them, if it comes to you just say something like "wow I guess I've been lucky, I don't have any stories like that! But Jill, damn, what Jack did to you was extra shitty, you don't still talk to him, right?". Basically, just demure and then pick someone who seems like they want to keep talking about their life and encourage them to do so. Observant people may notice, but honestly most people won't. And it works best when you're genuinely interested, which I find easiest when I focus on caring about my friends and their feelings rather than the guys - no I really can't relate to a conversation about how hot some guy is, but I can at least appreciate that my friends enjoy that and I can relate to what it's like to be excited about someone I'm attracted to.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is great advice.