"You can choose to be a lesbian" is ill-informed and in most contexts homophobic, regardless of it's coming from a far-right bigot or a far-left bigot bragging about how she "chose" to be a lesbian. I do not love misinformation or bigotry; if this person does, that's her business but it is NOT her business to speak for "lesbians as a whole" and suggest that.

I'm starting to realize that I will probably never feel comfortable calling myself "lesbian" and it's not just because of fetishistic pornography or because of how the word has been co-opted by some extremist, autogynephilic men; it is specifically because of radical feminism, co-opting the word and spreading misinformation about it. The more I read about radical feminism, the more I am convinced that it not only harbors homophobia but that homophobia is baked into its foundational beliefs. If this is what "lesbian" means then I'm not lesbian, I'm homosexual, thank you.

I loved the sense that I had chosen my sexuality and rather than being ashamed or apologetic about it, as many women were, I could be proud, and see it as a privilege. In those days I would wear badges proclaiming “We recruit!”

How is this any better than the benevolent homophobia of the TQ+ movement?

I and many other lesbians do not wish to dance to the bigot’s tune.

You may not wish to, but you are anyway.

I am become more and more concerned about the possibility that homophobic TQ+ voices may simply be replaced by... homophobic radical feminist voices. I am sure that some people who hold many radical feminist beliefs are not homophobic, but there is a clear and consistent trend here.

edit: typo