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[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Sharing my sexual orientation with my partner is important to me personally, it has meaning, my experiences as a gay man are different to a bisexual man, I will not feel guilt about wanting that shared understanding from the man I am married to.

Yep! I've theorized that this is what's behind many gay (as well as straight, I suppose) people's aversion to dating bisexuals, rather than any kind of bigotry... the sense that, without a shared sexual orientation, you just don't have enough in common. So you can't connect at the necessary level. Which is something that bisexuals (well, anybody with a modicum of empathy and emotional maturity, really) should be able to understand. (I myself am primarily-- though not exclusively-- attracted to other bisexuals, and this may be one reason why: the feeling that they're fundamentally sympatico, at least as far as our basic sexuality goes.)