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[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

but given your assumption how on earth do lesbians giving great orgasms to other lesbian and bisexual women; have anything to do with homophobia and our place in the world.

Agreed.

Then the 70's rolled around and many straight and bi women felt comfortable co-opting our identity for their own gain. Look up the history of the Lavender Menance and why it was created, non-homo feminists historically have hated on lesbians a lot. They wanted absolutely nothing to do with our "perversion" (homosexuality) or our issues facing us as a community.

Yes, exactly! This is what I was trying to talk about.

They still dont care (some just pretend), but would like our energy (since we make better feminists)

I don't see why lesbians would make better feminists. I suppose it is possible that lesbians are less prone to underestimating male violence, since our demographic is sexually assaulted at like twice the rate of straight women, and therefore are "better" feminists.

We see how gay men get treated everyday by straight men; how are women inherently better?

You are preaching to the choir.

When we say that women would be better, we basically belittle all the issues that gay men face DESPITE growing up in a patriarchy.

I would also call that benevolent sexism towards women. Not sure I'm convinced that I live in a patriarchy, though (I'm in the US; there are some users here from the Middle East, so I won't speak for them).

I'll take a look, thanks. I have avoided FDS because it seemed toxic but I didn't realize it had radfem links.

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The ideas that lesbians put forth make (or made) us better feminists because we can see through the gender roles that are indoctrinated into young girls since birth, much more easily than straight women. That why a few strange straight/bi women STILL think of lesbianism as some sort of strange "enlightenment" to this day. We are more likely to stick to our principles and put more effort in because out of all women, we get screwed over the most in a patriarchy.

I dont think its wrong at all to think that one doesnt live in a patriarchy even though they live in the US. That still doesnt change the fact that men get paid more than women for the same work or that men hold more political and economic power. When I said "patriarchy" I dont mean only women living in a theocracy. You can still grow up with patriarchal concepts and ideas made by man- see religion and religious homophobia which can affect a persons daily life. Men are also physically stronger than women and can force themselves or their ideas onto them that way. No, I wouldnt compare it to someone's life in a different country tho because that is more extreme.

Part of why we keep getting called "mannish" by the straights because we dont benefit from adhering to their gender roles. The first thing a homophobic woman does is attack a lesbians relationship to womenhood because we are more comfortable not following the gender norms that they have set in place for themselves. We usually only use the term "gnc" to describe butches and studs among the lesbian community. But technically, we are ALL gender non-conforming by virtue of being homosexuals. It doesnt benefit us as much to play into gender, but it messes up straight women too, even tho many of them fight to keep the norms in place.

We were more capable of pointing out bs in the ways that straight women and men relate to one another since we arent them and dont want to be like them.