What would you have done if you were this kid's parent?

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[–]loveSloaneSuperDuperBi 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Put him up for adoption (I kid I kid)

I’d get him some therapy, not just the gender affirming kind. And if he’s already in therapy, I’d ask to have a session for both of us where we discuss what happened. I’d probably also put him on punishment. When we were teens, my brother once had a similar outburst (not the “daughter” stuff but the screaming and cursing and telling our mom to get out of his room). We had music lessons to go to that same day, and when we got back home, my parents had taken all of his non essential items (tv, computer, video games etc) out of his room and told him he would get them back when he either could pay them the amount of money they’d spent on the items or he learned to be respectful. Idk if I’d do that exactly, but it seemed to work for my brother.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

that seemed like a smart way to handle it.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Smart parents.

[–]latuspodSuper Straight 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The moment one of my kids says something ridiculous like asking if I am going to rape them would be a breaking point. No TV, video games, cell phone, internet, until they figure it out. I'd hook some therapy with a real therapist. I wouldn't kick them out, because that would feed into the narrative, but if they didn't quit the bullshit I'd be recording every single interaction as a back up.

I'd like to think I am a good enough parent that my kids won't be like this, but my kids are at the age now where I am starting to realize that their friends and peer group have more influence than I do and outbursts like this arent a fair representation of a parents ability.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

when your kid asks you if your gonna rape me, you might wanna think of cutting them loose.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Kid screaming at his dad as if he would pass as a woman if his dad didn't say transgender daughter.

He clearly needs therapy, which he probably won't get because the whole trans thing is just about shuttling people off to hormones and surgery without any real medical diagnosis anymore.

[–]Happy_Blueberry3910 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Probably psychotherapy won't help as long as this boy will have access to Internet / Twitter.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If I had already tried sending him to therapy - actual therapy - or if he wouldn’t go to therapy, then what I would do next will depend on his age.

If he’s under 18, I’d take away all of his non-essentials. His telly, his games console, his smartphone, his computer... he will get them back if he pays me the amount of money I’ve spent getting them for him. Also, no access to the main computer except for homework. He’d just have the use of a dumbphone that only does calls and texts - I wouldn’t let any of my kids have a smartphone until they’re 16 anyway, featurephone only.

If my son or daughter treated me like that and he or she was 18 or over, I’d hand him or her a suitcase.

[–]Rubyredpython 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If he's still a minor, he's losing all phone/computer/tv/video games/etc privileges. He's going to actual therapy to work through this and he can have all his tech privileges back when he's grown and moves out of the house and buys it himself. If he's an adult, it's the same thing. I'm changing the WiFi password, all my streaming passwords, and it's no technology in my house. I'll pay for actual therapy and he has 90 days to get his crap together and find other living accomodations.

That's me being extra nice. More than likely, I won't have my adult son living with me and if he still said something like this when we talked, I'd cut communication until he apologized and I felt comfortable he wouldn't verbally abuse me like that again.