The thing is, even if we did see them as a real woman/man, they’d still not have a real vagina or a real penis, and likely still have many secondary sex characteristics that we aren’t attracted to, and that’s pretty important when it comes to having sex with or dating someone. You can accept someone’s sense of identity and still not be attracted to them, just as someone can not be attracted to someone who isn’t trans. I don’t see them as “real” women/men, obviously. I’m just saying that accepting TW as women or TM as men doesn’t lead to an obligation to want to fuck them. That’s just not how attraction works.