Lifestyle[Family/Dreams/Interpersonal] What's your life like?

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What was your life like growing up?

Family/Friends

1) What was your home life like growing up?

2) When did you "discover" you were either lesbian, gay, or bisexual?

3) Did you ever "come out" to your family? If so, how did they react?

4) Do you feel close to your family? Why or why not?

5) Who is someone you feel closest to in life?

6) Who currently makes up as your family(whether by blood or by choice) you're close to?

6a) What are those people like?

7) Do you have many friends, a few close ones, or none really?

Interpersonal

8) Would you describe yourself as an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?

8a) (Optional) What personality type are you for the [Myer's Brigg's 16 Personality Assessment](https://www.16personalities.com/)

9) What are your principles or N.U.T.S in life?

10) How would YOU describe yourself? How do others?(friends, family, partner, coworkers,etc) describe you?

11) What do you like to do in your downtime? And your interests?

Dreams

12) If money wasn't an issue, what would you want to do or be?

13) If you received $1,000,000.00(or whatever is equivalent in the current country you reside in), what would you do with it?

14) What is your biggest regret and what is your proudest moment?

15) What is your most cherished memory?

Bonus

  • Tell us about a recent show or movie you watched or about a book, article or blog you read!

  • What's a piece of wisdom/advice that's stayed with you over the years?

  • Any additional thoughts you would like to share?

Feel free to throw in a question to our LGB triad to answer too if you want!

As always... I'll edit if I come up with more questions. Will send provide a format template here soon ish.

Also...feel free to message me if you have suggestions or let me know of any grammatical errors or numbering/format issues. I don't notice till last minute sometimes. I'll fix if you let me know, no hard feelings from me lol.

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[–]SilverWolf 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

  1. I think i had a pretty nice home life growing up, my parents have lived with my grandparents on my mom's side since i can remember, so my grandparents have been like a second set of parents to me.
  2. I first noticed other guys when I was in middle school, but I was so in denial I told myself that I just wanted to be like them, not be with them. Freshman year of high school I learned about pansexual, and thought I was that for a little while. By senior year, I couldn't deny that I was more into guys than girls, but I thought if I met the right girl then it would just work out. It actually took until my freshman year of college, and meeting who I still think would be the perfect woman for me, to realize that even then, I didn't want to be with her, and accepted that I'm full on gay.
  3. I came out to my family between my junior and senior years of high school. I told them I was gay, even though I didn't fully think I was at the time, because I figured I'd end up with a guy anyways. And if I did find the right woman, then they would just get a happy surprise, because what parent would rather have a gay son than a straight son? Even thinking this, my family took it really well. My Grandma took it really well while I cried; my mom cried and my dad kind of sat there quietly, I don't think he really knew what to say, while I, again, cried; and my grandpa, the one I was really worried about having a bad reaction, told me he'll love me no matter what, while I once again cried. It was a very emotional weekend for me. My younger siblings all took it fine, but there was no crying with them.
  4. I feel close with my family, always have been, coming out didn't change anything.
  5. I don't really feel like there is one person I feel closest too
  6. Besides my parents, siblings, and grandparents, who I consider to be my immediate family, I also consider my roommates to be family.
  7. I have a lot of friends, but I'm not very close with most of them. My 2 current roommates, and my college dorm roommate are the friends I'm actually close with.
  8. Mainly introvert, but there are times I'm a bit more extroverted. 8a. I'm a mediator (INFP)
  9. I think it's important to not part on bad terms, even for a night. There's no guarantee that everyone will wake up tomorrow, and I don't want regret my last words to someone.
  10. I've always struggled answering questions about describing myself, I never know what to say..
  11. I like reading and playing video games for my personal downtime
  12. If I didn't have to worry about money, there are a few countries that I've always wanted to visit. Other than that, I think I would just live everyday doing whatever I felt like that day
  13. Pay off student loans, then maybe buy a home? I don't have any idea how much that would take, or how much would be left after that..
  14. I feel like there are way too many smaller things i regret in life, but nothing really huge that sticks out more than the others.
  15. Similar to the last question, I have lots of happy memories, but none that sticks out more than any other.

Bonus: I haven't seen the last episode yet, but I've been watching Wandavision and have really enjoyed it so far.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

1) What was your home life like growing up?

I don't remember much of it, I was very small when I was separated from my mother. After that I was raised in an adoptive system but that's not home.

2) When did you "discover" you were either lesbian, gay, or bisexual?

I didn't really know until my 20s. Something was clearly "off" before that though, since I had an unhealthy sexual obsession with boys since I was a teenager. I just didn't know it counted as being homosexual until much later because the media always promotes homosexuality as being about "love" and having a perfect dream husband. It's not that, it was never that, and I don't believe that covers even 10% of homosexuals.

3) Did you ever "come out" to your family? If so, how did they react?

N/A. If I was still in contact with my mother I would refuse to "come out". I don't want to embarrass her and being Russian I feel like she would be blamed for it. Hell even Americans are blaming mothers on gay sons in Western psuedoscience, claiming that their womb conditions make people gay. But it's not her fault.

4) Do you feel close to your family? Why or why not?

No, because I lost my mother when I was young.

5) Who is someone you feel closest to in life?

N/A

6) Who currently makes up as your family(whether by blood or by choice) you're close to?

N/A or none

6a) What are those people like?

See above

7) Do you have many friends, a few close ones, or none really?

None really

8) Would you describe yourself as an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?

I don't believe it's as much of a "thing" as people say, so N/A. Almost every test brands me as an extrovert though because I don't like being alone endlessly.

8a) (Optional) What personality type are you for the Myer's Brigg's 16 Personality Assessment

I don't remember and I don't feel like taking it again for the 500th time. It always gives me slightly different results.

9) What are your principles or N.U.T.S in life?

I don't understand the question.

10) How would YOU describe yourself? How do others?(friends, family, partner, coworkers,etc) describe you?

Bitchy, aggressive, melodramatic, perverted, degenerate, negative, cynical, easy to piss off. People tend to view me the same way.

11) What do you like to do in your downtime? And your interests?

I usually engage in unhealthy sexual behaviors (usually online) when I feel down and then make myself feel worse. I gave up the rest of my interests a while ago.

12) If money wasn't an issue, what would you want to do or be?

A normal functioning straight person. Or dead, dead works too.

13) If you received $1,000,000.00(or whatever is equivalent in the current country you reside in), what would you do with it?

Probably use at least a chunk of that to bribe someone into trying to fix me, disregarding any guidelines or laws preventing such treatment. I would probably use most of it, though, to try and get said laws and beliefs removed, and campaign towards a better future.

14) What is your biggest regret and what is your proudest moment?

There is only regret, there is nothing I have ever been proud of. My biggest regret is how I turned out. It disgusts me that suffering through abuse made me end up just as bad, albeit in another way. I don't know how I even became like this but I regret letting it happen, I regret not trying harder to get rid of my disgusting behavior.

15) What is your most cherished memory?

Random childhood memories before the mental illness set in, where I could still feel happiness, was blissfully oblivious and had things to look forward in life. I know I'll never have that again, so, it's kind of painful to look back on.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Family/Friends

1) What was your home life like growing up?

Fairly average. Working dad, stay at home mam, older brother and younger sister. Middle class family life in the suburbs of a medium-sized Irish town. Raised Catholic and went to mass every Sunday. We had a dog as well, but she died of old age last year.

2) When did you "discover" you were either lesbian, gay, or bisexual?

I first had those feelings about men when I was 14, but I didn’t know what they meant at first. I went in and out of attraction towards the same sex until I was 17, and it became clear that I was attracted to males. Weeks before turning 18, I realised (or finally acknowledged) I had zero attraction to females.

3) Did you ever "come out" to your family? If so, how did they react?

I did. They are all supportive. Initially, it took a bit of trial and error, because my parents were sceptical of the idea of a masculine teenage boy being gay. But in the end they are very supportive. Ironically, I am much more masculine today than I am now.

4) Do you feel close to your family? Why or why not?

Yes. I was raised with them. Even before the lockdowns I always found it easier to interact with them and my extended family than people outside of my family. Though I do have friends.

5) Who is someone you feel closest to in life?

My best friend.

6) Who currently makes up as your family(whether by blood or by choice) you're close to?

My parents, my brother and my sister, some of my cousins. In particular, my eldest female cousin who was more like an aunt, and my male cousin from England who visits every year.

6a) What are those people like?

They’re all easygoing. We all get along for the most part.

7) Do you have many friends, a few close ones, or none really?

My best friend. I have friends from college and karate lessons, but I haven’t seen them since the lockdowns.

Interpersonal

8) Would you describe yourself as an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?

Introvert.

9) What are your principles or N.U.T.S in life?

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Avoid confrontation with people you know unless it is absolutely necessary. Don’t be too honest about your beliefs or your intentions in case you make yourself vulnerable.

10) How would YOU describe yourself? How do others (friends, family, partner, coworkers,etc) describe you?

I guess my friends and family would describe me as quiet, nice, funny, polite, dedicated and idealistic. My family would also describe me as opinionated and politically incorrect. As for me, I think I would describe myself as quiet, dedicated, trying, daydreaming and having a dark sense of humour.

11) What do you like to do in your downtime? And your interests?

I’m interested in walking, culture, travel, karate, facts and figures, technology, scenery, food and architecture. In my down time, I like to lift weights, listen to music, listen to livestreams, watch creepy and darkly humorous videos and watch videos of people travelling.

Dreams

12) If money wasn't an issue, what would you want to do or be?

I have my degree in accounting, so after I’m fully qualified, I would like to open a business or travel the world.

13) If you received $1,000,000.00(or whatever is equivalent in the current country you reside in), what would you do with it?

I’d buy a house, set up a business, invest some of my money in stocks and shares, buy some precious metals and put some of that money away for travel.

14) What is your biggest regret and what is your proudest moment?

I regret that I never did any extracurricular activities when I was in primary school or secondary school. I did do swimming lessons when I was in primary school, but that was only because my mam signed me up. I wished I took up martial arts when I was in primary or secondary school, rather than when I was in college. I probably would have been a lot more sociable and I would have had an easier time making friends. But in the end, I went to karate when I was in college and I’m glad I did it. My proudest moment was getting my first belt, going from a 10th kyu to a 9th kyu. It was then that I truly felt like I was a part of the karate club.

15) What is your most cherished memory?

In 2018, my best friend and I went on a tour around Central Europe. We saw a lot of sites, met a lot of interesting people and did a lot of exciting things. It was the best holiday ever.

Bonus

Tell us about a recent show or movie you watched or about a book, article or blog you read!

Recently started watching the US version of Shameless. It is kinda good, but my interest in it is wearing thin. Currently on the second season. I tend to lose interest in shows during the second, third or fourth season. Game of Thrones was probably the only American show I’ve watched from the first episode to the last. The Inbetweeners is another show I’ve seen the entire run of, though I haven’t seen the movies.

I have seen the Karate Kid lately. Good movie. Also seen the first instalment of John Wick.

Embarrassingly, it’s been years since I’ve read books. Something I need to change.

What's a piece of wisdom/advice that's stayed with you over the years?

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Said by my dad.

Any additional thoughts you would like to share?

This is your life. Make the most of it. Even if your next life is going to be better than this, make this current life count.