Targeting / HarassmentTrans woman in real life is trying to date me after finding out I'm a lesbian

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You’re very welcome! All these tips I gave are things I learned in my previous classes and groups about abusive behavior. I had no idea what to do in such situations, and I don’t think most women do.

And trust me, he will move on to other women, especially lesbians! These kinds of people always do. Sometimes they do this to multiple women at the same time.

And TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS! Your whole body and mind are trying to tell you something, that this man is dangerous. And never forget, especially in the UK, that if he “comes out” as trans and claims to be a woman, he will (if he doesn’t already) have access to you and other women in bathrooms, locker rooms, even female-only swimming ponds. That’s why I think it’s good for people to know what he’s really like.

Have you read a book that came out some years ago, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence, by Gavin de Becker? I highly recommend it! It’ll reassure you about the validity and crucial importance of what you’re sensing.