Ah, so CBT is what it's called. The last time I went to therapy, my therapist was exactly how you described: "you're choosing to feel bad, so stop choosing to feel bad".

She also said "you don't seem depressed, but here's information on how to think positive"....I have/had Post Partum Depression and had suicidal thoughts for the longest time....these thoughts still come up sometimes, but stop myself because I have a child to care for and feel stuck in life. I didn't tell her those things though, because I already know she'll just assume it's all "in your mind".

I hadn't had any good luck so far with therapy honestly. It feels like a waste of money for me. I don't think I'll ever be able to fully explain my transitioning/detransitioning period without some sort of negative input(ex. Either they're SUPER LGBTQIA friendly so that makes my Drop the T thinking "wrong" or they just don't get it and will brush it off).

Last time, I told her about some issues dealing with dysfunctional family, a loved one with addiction, etc, she just focused in on a stupid trivial detail of me mentioning I cringe at my old pictures (that was when I was transitioning, I don't like to look at them much). She ignored basically everything I said and told me to "hang" or "put out" those cringe pictures so I feel more positive about it. No thanks.