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[–]julesburm1891[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

So, you’re saying no one is public about sex-life stuff, so announcing you have sexual interests would be weird. Okay, I can rationalize that. (I had a good friend growing up who was Muslim and once told me that seeing kissing in a movie for her family was like sex scene for basic American families. So, the concept does make some sense.)

But, you’re also saying that that if someone didn’t “come out” and just started dating a member of the same sex, people would see them as pedophile/mentally ill and the police might harass them? That, I can’t rationalize and it makes me sad.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But, you’re also saying that that if someone didn’t “come out” and just started dating a member of the same sex, people would see them as pedophile/mentally ill and the police might harass them? That, I can’t rationalize and it makes me sad.

Oh no, that would be if they DID come out. If you announce you are LGBT it's like you are asking for trouble. It's like, HEY, PAY ATTENTION TO ME! I WANT SOME DRAMA! If they didn't come out and just started dating secretly, everyone would just do their best to assume that the person and their 'special friend' are just really close best friends. Like sometimes you will hear of some nice lady who lives with her friend in an apartment with a bunch of cats, and the poor dears, neither of them was able to find a husband, but it's alright, at least they have each other. But no one will assume they are a lesbian couple, but... they totally are, they just keep it secret.

It is kind of a "don't ask/don't tell" mentality, now that I think of it. People are very eager to assume you are straight, even if you are the most flaming drag queen, as long as you don't say you are LGB out loud.