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[–]julesburm1891 43 insightful - 7 fun43 insightful - 6 fun44 insightful - 7 fun -  (3 children)

Gotta love all the replies like “you’re straight of course you aren’t attracted to her anymore.” No one wants to get into the real issue of: you don’t find a selfish man larping as a woman attractive.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 32 insightful - 2 fun32 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That’s exactly it. Ben is still a biological male. But the sudden change in his personality and his behaviour, plus the eventual change in his appearance, is going to be a turnoff for OP. Not to mention that he wants to buy expensive cosmetics while a baby is on the way, and doesn’t seem to care too much about the baby.

[–]chazzstrong 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly! I seriously do not think the loss of attraction is because he looks atrocious in heels or comes off looking like a drag queen, it's because as Humans we instinctively shy away from things that make us uncomfortable or feel dangerous. A man suddenly wanting to be a woman is BOTH of those things. Any soon-to-be mother is going to think about the well being of her coming child, and that throws up all kinds of red flags.

And, not to go all psychologist or anything, but it's VERY clear to me that his 'change' happened because his partner, as is typical of pregnant women, was likely getting far more attention and catered to than he was and it made him jealous. Plus, him suddenly being a "woman" catapulted his needs up-to or ( in his mind ) over her own. That's a dead-ringer for narcissism.

[–]fuckupaddamsBisexual Terve 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly