LesbianWhy the hell do some trans-focused "lesbian" communities talk about being a "top" or "bottom"?

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[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 27 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Huh? The top in a gay relationship is the one who uses his penis to penetrate the other, so how tf does that work without a penis? The only situation I can think of is with a strapon? But I doubt that's as popular among lesbians as anal sex is among gay men.

Are they refering to dom/sub? Because that's something else entirely that has nothing to do with penetration

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 29 insightful - 2 fun29 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

They use it as dom and sub.But even then I don' think there is strict dom and sub in most lesbian couples.These people want everyone to fit into little boxes and see relationships as some power play. Disgusting

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But even then I don' think there is strict dom and sub in most lesbian couples.

Completely agree. The idea of seeing relationships solely through a power play lens disturbs me, as well.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

It's kind of ironic that for people who reject the idea that sex fits neatly into two boxes and a super tiny basket of oddities, they hate when personalities that actually do exist on a spectrum are difficult to keep track of

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Huh? The top in a gay relationship is the one who uses his penis to penetrate the other, so how tf does that work without a penis?

I have no idea... that's what I don't understand. My only guesses are either a) transwomen who date biological straight/bisexual women say "top" to refer to the fact that they have a dick (i.e. heterosexual PIV or anal) and/or b) dom/sub just like you said.