you are viewing a single comment's thread.

view the rest of the comments →

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don’t have strong feelings about anyone using the word “partner” or not as long as they’re not doing it to appear in-group for personal gain when they’re not.

I was having a discussion with a lesbian couple about this the other day. One half is late 20s, the other is mid-30s. The younger one is big on saying “wife” and is all about viability and the older one prefers “partner.”

The younger one is very conventionally attractive and appears femme so I know she deals with people assuming she’s straight all the time and expressing incredulity that she’s actually gay, so I think this may be a factor for her. Ironically she is deep in the gender woo and identifies as non-binary though.