"It's not about the dick, it's about what's attached to the dick"

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[–]reluctant_commenter 19 insightful - 3 fun19 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

Maybe they ought to specify that the subject of a fetish is something that is not a sexual organ or a sex characteristic, lol.

I have heard people make the same mistake with women's breasts-- saying that some people are "breast fetishists" or something.

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Right? If it has to do with reproduction--not a fetish. If it cannot demonstrate reproductive fitness, say, feet or latex, then yeah, fetish.

[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Interesting, I think it speaks to the fact that they may not have thought how the definition might be easily misinterpreted by some parties. I'll keep an eye out for that in the future, I could definitely see how that might confuse some people. It seems like a small point but we do need to be clear about our definitions in order to progress anywhere with conversations about human sexuality.

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Absolutely. Another problem I see with the concept of a fetish is that people assume it's some kind of gatekeeper. Once the fetish is present, then the person can have sex, because they're sufficiently physiologically aroused (where arousal certainly is conducive to intercourse.) Or that normal sexual desire won't be present in that person until the fetish is present and acted on. All roads, apparently, lead to sex. Everyone desires sex.

But what if it's only the fetish a person wants, and they don't have an intrinsic motivation for sex? Think of the 10% of AGP with an orientation of identity of asexual.

I think both are right, it depends on that individual for how much of their sexuality is comprised of a normal desire, and how much is fetishistic. Most people want plain sex. Some people want plain sex and some kink with it. There. I've defined a continuum. Take it to it's logical conclusion--some people only want kink, and no sex.