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[–]censorshipment 39 insightful - 1 fun39 insightful - 0 fun40 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The way I see it: if you're not disclosing that you're "trans", you're going on dates in defense mode to accuse lesbians of being "transphobic" to paint yourself as a victim. You're essentially victimizing yourself by taking a risk of engaging with "terfs" as a fragile man who can't handle rejection.

Before video chatting was readily available, I disclosed to women that I'm black so they wouldn't expect a white woman to show up since white is the default race (like male is the default sex) online. I knew the chances of me being rejected as a black woman was as high possibility, so I didn't show up on dates in defense mode to accuse white lesbians of racism.

I know, I know... folks hate comparing being trans to being black, but the similarity is quite clear.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

if you're not disclosing that you're "trans", you're going on dates in defense mode to accuse lesbians of being "transphobic" to paint yourself as a victim

https://shrink4men.com/2017/11/21/characteristics-of-professional-victims/