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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 8 insightful - 9 fun8 insightful - 8 fun9 insightful - 9 fun -  (1 child)

That’s the best call. But my back-up option would be to try to remember only one thing each person said about themselves. I would aim for the least helpful and relevant thing to show that I was listening but only enough to annoy them. Like forget names, pronouns, gender, sexuality. I would refer to them as “the Chinese-Mexican yonder.” “The tax law human.” “The mutt who isn’t into hook-ups.” And I would make up pronouns, use them inconsistently, but say them confidently with gusto.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Well, in my opinion this is the best call! Cuz it fucking gives me life :)

"The tax law human"! LOL all day! I may take inspiration from this and proceed to call such gender-exhibitionists "Snowflake 1", "Snowflake 2", etc.; particularly satisfying because it denies their specialness-fetish and makes 'em just a number. Far more generic than us boring ol' "cis" people, with our commonsense pronouns and whatnot.