Will just say, for myself-- I was drinking the TQ koolaid before I showed up on saidit and have felt uncomfortable/dissatisfied about many aspects of feminity and the experience of being a woman. Hearing about others' experiences (e.g. of gender dysphoria, going about the world as someone who is gender non-conforming) helped me realize how normal my own experiences were, and that I did not have to be something other than a woman just because I don't follow many feminine gender expectations.