RantSo a friend came out as bi, I guess? (Bi people help)

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[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you for your answer. Why I don't feel safe? I'll basically copy paste a part of the answer from Treeofthoughts, because it described it so well: "I know this is basically the reason this forum exists, but still every now and again it bamboozles me, that I would feel pretty comfortable being out to a religious person who may disapprove of me, but will know to be polite as their homophobia is considered unacceptable, yet more wary if I perceive someone as a SJW - because they are allowed to be homophobic in a woke way, and I will put myself at danger (particularly in a work context) if I object."

In what concerns to labels... yeaaaaaah. If you were homosexual and knew that society is so heternormative that you feel the need to constantly come out otherwise you have to be keeping to pretend to like dudes, you'd know how useful labels can be. For dating is also really useful as, unlike for straight and bi people, we don't just "encounter" tons of potential partners on a daily basis. Love doesn't "just" happen without active effort. Labels are really useful for us.

[–]Ladis_Wascheharuum 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Labels are really useful for us.

We all have our biases and see the world through our own experience. I'll never claim to speak for all bisexuals (I'm a bit odd no matter what) but I can see how labels are both practical and limiting, and perhaps for lesbians it's much more the former and for bisexuals it's more the latter. I don't like the "baggage" that comes with my label, even if I use it for practical reasons.

My point is that, while I think a bit like your friend, I don't think I'm a homophobe. I've given up on gender ideology as it's an illogical mess. I don't think lesbians should be shamed, or even gently convinced, into trying dick. If you want only biological women, that's your call, and no one else's. I don't think your friend's statement are red flags. You need more information before you jump to judgement. That's all I'm saying.