I looked up their ages and they are: 27 in a few days (Amy Ordman), 23 (Jack Dodge), and 24 (Carson McCalley). You're right that this attitude has a Peter Pan element to it, and the LA environment encourages that. Not that I think everyone has to settle down, but it is weird to pretend that many if not most people do not have this as a goal. Then again, often the queer/pansexual types are those who are pushing polyamory on everyone when they're just human train wrecks. All in all, we all reach a certain point in life where we realize potentiality is not the most meaningful metric to base our judgments of ourselves and others on. That's mainly appropriate only when someone is very young and hasn't had a lot of life experience.

For someone who had a hard time accepting her sexual orientation for a number of reasons and tried to bury it for a long time, it sure is weird as hell to come out and find other gay people saying that I have to keep myself open to the opposite sex that I already wasted so much time trying to be open to, and that to not do so is foolish. Labels aren't limiting if they're accurate, dumbasses. And if they're not accurate, then update them.