BisexualThose are all bisexual with extra steps

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[–]Smolders1Cock is god's greatest gift. 28 insightful - 4 fun28 insightful - 3 fun29 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

Why do bisexual people hate calling themselves bisexual so much?

Like, seriously, it's kinda weird how much people do to 'get out' of being bi. Why is that? Celebrate your bisexuality. It's your label.

[–]Ladis_Wascheharuum 42 insightful - 1 fun42 insightful - 0 fun43 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Because, between the confused gay teens calling themselves bi, the attention-seeking straight teens calling themselves bi, the perception of bisexuals being promiscuous, the perception of bisexuals being smugly self-righteous, the perception of bisexuals being "unreliable" members of the LGB community, the perception of bisexuals being just as sinful and perverted as L&Gs by the straight community, the perception of bisexuals being transphobic by the woke community, and several other issues, being "bisexual" can feel genuinely lonely and even fraudulent.

[–]reluctant_commenter 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That really sucks. Do you think there's anything we can do here in this sub to try to counteract some of those negative factors? Sometimes I see negative comments on here about bisexuals and I try to report and/or debate them. But maybe it would be helpful to address the issue head-on?

[–]Ladis_Wascheharuum 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This sub isn't too bad, all things considered.

There is just a lack of awareness that bisexuals have their own unique problems, not just "part-time homophobia". They're stereotyped in unflattering ways, similar to Ls and Gs, but not quite the same. (Being sex-maniacs, always up for threesomes, unfaithful.) They're accused of faking (which does happen, sometimes for understandable reasons, but doesn't mean all are fakers) They're accused of having privilege, or easy sex lives. (There is a fair number of people, straight and gay, who will say they would never date a bisexual. Again, seen as untrustworthy or unfaithful by nature.)

I don't mean to be entering the oppression-olympics here. The point is that bisexuals are just people, who, like the Ls and Gs, want to live their lives in peace. A little bit of empathy goes a long way. We're not trying to redefine genders, deny science, compel speech, or demand sexual partners. (Some bisexuals do get very salty about those who don't want to date us, but really, those ones need to suck it up.) We just have non-standard wants in our sex lives, and we have that in common with all LGBs.

Only thing to do with haters is to remind them of that. They'll listen or not, but also remember that online, you're not trying to convince the person you're arguing with. The odds are too shit for that. You're really trying to convince the people who are watching the argument, the lurkers. So, debunk the bad stereotypes where you can, encourage empathy. That's it, as far as I can suggest.

This is why I tend to speak up for asexuals, who all too often have their problems dismissed by LGBs. They're told they don't experience discrimination or abuse, or that they can easily pass as straight, but really they are inundated with constant messages that they're abnormal or mentally or hormonally defective, they face disappointed families and attempts at "fixing" them, and they get accused of faking the label (and some people do identify as asexual just because they're shy/scared/unlucky in sex and drop the label later in life -- sound familiar?) All they really want to is live their lives in peace with their own sexuality.