To a certain extent yes, but it didn’t need to be this way. LGBT got captured by largely heterosexual outsiders and by queer theory. This needn’t have been the case. Just like it needn’t be the case that if you are concerned about unequal treatment under the law about black people in the U.S. that the natural result is that you adopt all the positions of BLM.

That being said, I have reflected on how some of the dialogue happened during the gay marriage debate with shaming people who said that they thought marriage should be between a man and a woman only. To me, there were a few problems with that position, but especially that the main reason was religious belief, which should not be codified into law. I mean there’s a lot to unpack here and I don’t think what happened with gay rights is anything close to what’s happening with trans privileges activism. With the gay stuff, change took a lot of time and there was a lot of public discussion. I had debates in my classes in high school and at that time there was a mix of opinions and it was nothing like it is now with trans activism.

Do I give a shit if some bakery doesn’t want to make me a “gay cake?“ No, that should be their prerogative.

IMO “LGBTQ” activism lost the plot when it switched from tolerance to acceptance. I don’t know when this change happened but would be curious if others have insight. You basically can’t force people to “accept“ you. That’s mind control and I’m not interested in it. Homosexuality and bisexuality will always strike some people as being a little weird because it’s outside the norm and heterosexuals don’t know what it’s like to be this way, or always know what to do with us. I think a lot of this is about being same/sex-attracted being gender non-conforming and so they can’t figure out where we fit in and how they should regard us in different social interactions. I don’t always know how to regard you either, straights, so I really think that’s fine for them to have those feelings as long as we are still seeing each other’s humanity.