From the creep u/drtmprss:

also from your post, it seems like some of the things that you cited in your post that you’re afraid of penises for are things that are kinda rare in my experience. but i understand that the idea of penises can be scary and you do not wish to interact with them :)

pregnancy is very unlikely as long as she wears a condom properly (ie it fits well and such) if you’re on birth control and she wears a condom, the chance of pregnancy is practically 0

again if she wears a condom it will be extremely unlikely that either of you will get an std. but if you’re worried about mouth transmission, then you don’t have to give her oral, as long as you make it clear that you don’t want to before hand

on the what if it hurts, it shouldn’t as long as you’re aroused and have had plenty of foreplay, unless you can’t use a dildo because it hurts, then that’s understandable.

i hope i helped clear somethings up, and if it wasn’t helpful or i got something wrong please someone let me know i do not wish to live in ignorance :)

So here this creep is saying that if someone doesn't say ahead of time that that don't want to do a sex act, they can not make that decision in the moment or after the act has begun, even though it's known that they have a natural aversion to the act and are trying to talk themselves into it. And again, this person doesn't have a vagina and is in no place to tell a woman that a penis in her vagina will not hurt the first time. Everything about this is one big lie and gaslight.